Below are a few reflections on thoughts that we have had or that someone else may have expressed.
The purpose of these reflections is to help you connect with the thoughts others have experienced after a miscarriage. We hope these reflections bring you comfort and help you feel you are not alone in your sorrow. When appropriate, links to articles and resources will be posted with the reflections.
These reflections and their attached articles are not medical or psychological advice and any link to another article or resource is not meant as an endorsement of that company or person or their teachings.
The world may never notice, if a Snowdrop doesn’t bloom,
or even pause to wonder, if the petals fall too soon.
But every life that ever forms, or ever comes to be,
touches the world in some small way, for all eternity.
The little one we longed for was swiftly here and gone,
but the love that was then planted, is a light that still shines on.
And though our arms are empty, our hearts know what to do.
Every beating of our hearts says that we love you.
-Author unknown
Fathers
After a miscarriage, fathers are often heard saying they don't know how to talk about the subject with their wives. God created male and female differently, therefore, they can grieve the loss of their unborn baby in a different ways and that is okay. It doesn't mean the man isn't a good father or that he isn't grieving. Below are a couple articles that a man might find helpful.
Mother’s Day
On Mother's Day, please remember the hidden mothers who lost their babies to miscarriage. As brunches, gifts, and special recognitions happen, they are silently there. They are still mothers, even if the world doesn't know their babies exist. This year, don't forget to acknowledge the hidden mothers you know. A bouquet, a special meal, a visit to the baby's burial place, one of the mementos below or just a simple, "I remember you and am praying for you today" could mean a lot to a hidden mother.
Good Friday and Easter Sunday
When you found out you were going to miscarry, you may have felt you were experiencing your own Good Friday — your baby was dead. May you find comfort and hope knowing that someday you will have your own Easter Sunday and see your child again. Below is a priest's homily that touches on this point.
